I want to be your best friend, not just your lover

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It sounds beautiful, doesn’t it? Finding a lover. A person to kiss. A person to lớn go on dates with. A person whose hand you squeeze during scary movies. A person to xuất hiện your life to, give your heart to, who you can see yourself with, years and years down the road.

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But finding that person is scary.

There’s so many rules and restrictions in today’s dating world. A ‘lover’ is supposed to lớn be attractive & sexy và enticing & reliable và romantic and everything we’ve ever dreamed of, right? He/she’s supposed lớn be this perfect person. But perfection in love? That’s not real. Và finding a flawless, completes-me type of person? Impossible. (Thank goodness, because none of us would make the cut.)

That’s why I don’t want something perfect. & why I don’t want a lover. I want a best friend.

I want someone I can be completely myself around. I want to lớn wake up in the morning, hair all sleepy & messy around my face, makeup off, baggy t-shirt on, & not feel like I have to lớn be anything I’m not.

I want someone lớn laugh with. To stay up late with and talk about dreams. Lớn go on adventures with, big or small. Lớn sip wine & make breakfast together, and feel like we know every little thing about each other’s lives.

I want someone I can talk to lớn openly, fearlessly, about my biggest regrets and future plans. Someone who I can trust. Someone who will be there for me, no matter what, & I’ll return the favor. Someone I can chow down on family kích cỡ Chex mix with, someone I can just sit on the couch with & not say anything, but simply enjoy each other’s company.

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I want a best friend. Someone I can tease, go out drinking with, or stay in & binge-watch Prison Break with. Someone who will give me a genuine compliment when I look my best, but will honestly tell me when I look lượt thích sh*t and need to get my butt off the couch.

I want someone who knows all my inner secrets, drama, và proudest moments. Who will go places with me, or take me to lớn dinner and actually talk about things that matter. Who won’t always have khổng lồ be in charge, have khổng lồ pay, have lớn be the one to lớn plan things. But will still bởi vì those things sometimes, just because.

I want someone who will make me laugh, drive me nuts, piss me off, but still be my best friend.

And I want to fall head over heels for this best friend.

See, I think the world has it all wrong. Love isn’t about finding the perfect person, about finding a lover. I think love is all about finding your best friend. Someone who you’re compatible with on so many levels, not just romantically. (Because that mushy-gushy, intimate stuff will come naturally. Don’t worry.)

I want a best friend—someone I love, yes, but more importantly, someone I can truly know. & someone who knows me, inside and out, flaws & quirks & all my weirdness, yet still chooses to be mine.

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